I met this guy at an event a couple weeks ago and we were doing the whole, “What do you do for a living” chit-chat. When I said, “I’m a life coach!” He got really excited. He wanted to guess what life coaches do. And then things got embarrassing because he was super wrong.
He’s not alone. When I first decided to become a life coach, my husband also didn’t “get it.” He thought I was going to tell people exactly how to live their lives. “Because it’s like a sports coach, right???” Also wrong. (It’s okay. I don’t really understand his job, either.)
So, let’s break it down.
What is a life coach?
A life coach is someone who partners with you to help you reach your goals. But if we break this down further, a coach helps you:
Create a vision for the future
Gain new insights
Identify limiting beliefs
Develop and follow through with a plan
Coaches provide support, encouragement, and accountability. You hold the answers within you. As coaches, we provide the environment and the tools for you to find those answers and achieve results.
Why would someone hire a life coach?
People hire coaches because they’re tired of spinning their wheels. Maybe you know what you want out of life. Why haven’t you been able to get it? Maybe you know what you need to do but you can’t seem to do it. That’s where we come in.
Life coaches help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. We help people navigate problems, get unstuck, and build new skills. Life coaches can help with a wide range of issues, including:
Losing weight or making healthier choices
Finding work/life balance
Learning to communicate more effectively
Getting out of a rut
Navigating a major life change
Whether you need a little nudge or you’re hitting the “reset” button, a coach meets you where you are.
What coaches DON’T do
Let’s go back to my husband for a second. There are a lot of misconceptions about coaching, so let’s debunk some myths.
A life coach won’t tell you what to do. You’re the expert in your life, not your coach. We’ll help you see new perspectives and challenge beliefs that don’t serve you. And we’ll offer resources and tools, but we’re not going to tell you what to do.
A life coach won’t be your therapist. Mark and I are trained therapists, but coaching and therapy are two different things. We’re not going to spend a lot of time on your past or work through trauma. Life coaching focuses on the present and your goals for the future.
A life coach isn’t going to let you settle. Comfort zones are amazing, cozy little things. When you hire a coach, you’re making a commitment to yourself. A coach will help you keep that commitment, even when it gets uncomfortable.
Does life coaching work?
Hell yes! As a matter of fact, I have my own coach!
Real talk – You’re close to your problems. Too close to them. And your neural pathways are well-worn, so it can be hard to make changes. So if you’re frustrated because you haven’t been successful on your own, it’s not your fault.
Life coaches offer new insights. And we help you create the future you really desire. Life coaching works for a few different reasons:
You and your life coach develop a unique relationship that propels you forward
You work with your coach to set goals that actually motivate you
You get to develops new skills and insights and this leads to greater success.
You get support and accountability to help keep you on track.
More real talk – coaching only works if you work it. Your results are a reflection of your commitment to the process. If you’re always missing your coaching sessions, blaming others for your mistakes, or you refuse to look at yourself, you may not be ready for coaching right now.
Hmmm…Maybe life coaching sounds kind of good?
Most coaches offer a free consultation call. This is really the best way to find out if life coaching is a good fit for you. And it gives you a sense for the coach and how he or she works.
Mark and I both offer a free consult call. It’s an opportunity for us to meet and see if we’d work well together. We’ll review your goals, barriers, and questions. And while we’re based in Denver, we can meet with clients online, anywhere. You can set up a call by following this link right here.
And even if you’re not interested in hiring a life coach, now you’ll be prepared the next time you meet one. You’re welcome!